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Whilst i was away my girl use 2 cum visit and shit but a few months dwn the line she stopped, but i still use 2keep in touch everyday via mail,phone. When i got out we moved in 2gether and 2-3 months later she was pregnant.(my son is 12 months old now) but a few months ago i found she fukd my mate not once but twice and also she woz goin out wiv sum other dude!!! now i dnt knw wot 2 do, fair enuff she woz young then, only 17, and naive.I understand how
lonely and shit she must b and needed sum1 there but i jus dnt knw wot 2 do cuz i really do care bout her and i dnt want 2 lose my son either.

she says she loves me and only me but if that was tru y she play me like that?? U knw wot i mean? i feel so ashamed and embrassed like evey1 is laffin at me. I mean frm a female perspective wot do u think i should do?i cant cut all links off wiv her cuz of my son who means the world 2 me but then again i feel so betrayed that i jus feel like walkin away.i dnt think i could ever trust her agian so is there really any point of me bein wiv her?i dnt knw man, please help. thankz.
Well.....

Sounds like you have a number of problems to deal with. I am not going to deal with the past too much because you will never be able to move on to the future if you are always stuck in the past.

1) So your girl cheated on you when you were locked up. I do think it was really wrong of her BUT at the same time like you said she was young and alone. You are lucky that she even stayed with you while you were away because honestly she didn't have to and it wasn't fair to her to have to spend her young years with a man that was away. If she was honest about what happend and she hasn't cheated since then you should give her a break. If you do decide to give her a break drop the past and don't throw it in her face. If you keep throwing it in her face then you guys will keep having problems and she will grow to hate you.

2) You need to check your friend because he is slimy for sleeping with your girl. If anything he should have been looking out for you and taking care of your girl while you couldn't. Making sure she was okay.

3) If things don't work out with her don't worry. You guys are both young and will meet new people and fall in love again. Just as long as you have a healthy friendship for your son that is all that matters.

4) Who cares what other peple think?? I know as men you are alwasy concerned what other people think but if these people don't have a girl or kids then they need to SHUT UP because they aren't in your position and don't know anything about what is like to be a MAN like you and have a family. They might be hating really because they don't have a chick who has been down for then so long. Time will tell if you stay together but if you do just take note that you are still with your girl and you keep seeing your friends with a new girl every week.

Also be careful in the future. DON'T get locked up again and DON'T get her pregnant again. If you wouldn't have gotten locked up then she wouldn't have been left alone and if she wouldn't have gotten pregnant you could've moved on EASY!]]> Relationships http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=119 Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:21:32 -0400 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=118 Hey Babygirl:

It sounds like you have a pretty cool boytfriend. He is not rushing you to do things you don't want to do, he is taking his time, and you guys are still together after all this time.

If I were you I would:

1) Take it easy. I know it bothers you that you can't see him more often but dont worry so much about what happens. Just wake up each day new and deal with what problems or happiness that day brings when it comes. Who knows how your life may change. Maybe in the future you will see him more often.

2) Keep taking your time when it comes to being intimate with him. You will know when you are ready.

3) Focus on school and your hobbies right now and soon you will be grown and on your own!]]> General http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=118 Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:04:29 -0400 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=117
While doing a Google search for lost relatives I discovered a number of gang-related hits (one that led me to your homepage) that contained my last name!

Why are Cripps or Bloods using my family name: Czup?

What does it mean to them?

Since I don't belong to a street gang I don't like my family name being associated with organized crime, do you suppose my only recourse is some kind of civil litigation? And where would I even start?

Hi:



The word "czup" or "cz up" only means "crips up" "c" = crip , "z" = 's, "up" = up/best/winner, etc. So it's like crip's up and "czup" is just another slang word for it. It is equivalent of saying "what's up" etc. Unfortunately there is no legal action you can take against anyone because there isn't one specific person using it and it isn't actually a word, it's just a slang term like "hello". Best!]]> Street Life http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=117 Mon, 19 Mar 2007 18:58:52 -0400 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=116 I am having a lot of problems with boys! Every boy I like they either have a girlfriend or say that I am ugly. I am 15 and haven't had a boyfriend yet! I am very shy. When I go to school I see all the couples kissing and I get upset and want to be in that position. What can I do to get a boyfriend?
Hey girl,

DO NOT WORRY! I am sure your mother says the same thing but sweetie do not worry.

Being young is tough:

1) You are trying to learn about yourself. Who are you? What do you like? What are you good at? What do you want to be when you grow up?

AND

2) You are meeting new people and seeing where you fit in. Am I a jock, prep, gangster, cheerleader, nerd?

In time everything will work out for you just fine. You just need to give yourself time for everything to happen. It isn't going to happen when you want it because most things never happen like that, they happen when you least expect it or are not looking for it (believe me).

If you focus on other things like your school work, friends, hobbies, sports, a job you won't even pay attention to what other people are doing and you won't even notice who is dating who.

Lastly you never know where you might meet your boo. You might meet him somewhere else besides school. There are tons of places like; church, the mall, a game, the library, an arcade, etc. Open you mind, eyes, and ears to what is going on around you and just might notice someone who you didn't see before. Maybe there is a shy guy just like you who is waiting for someone like you as well.

Good luck!

P.S. Sometimes it is better to be single. Less drama!!

]]> Relationships http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=116 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 18:12:14 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=115

Hey,

Honestly I would say that it is NOT okay to date the ex of a friend. There are millions of people in the world but you have to date the one same person that they did (kinda gross). Most people would think that is pretty shady and you could miss out on your friendship because of that. Everyone should know that you should never put a date in front of a friend. People you date change but friends are always there.

Now, if there really is something special about her that you can't get over then I would follow your heart. Before you do anything you need to sit down and have a talk with your friend. You should probably wait until he gets over his ex and moves on to a new girl. Then I would sit him down and tell him honestly that you are interested and see if he cares. If he doesn't care then go for it but make sure that she likes you back before you say anything. If your friend does care then you have the choice of losing your friend or meeting a new girl.

If I were you I would choose the friend. Dates are like buses, a new one comes every 5 minutes.

Good luck!!!



]]> Relationships http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=115 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 17:59:18 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=114 Here all my problems started:i went to cali last summer n my love to usa increased.I told my parents i would move to america after graduatin n they told me that i could go there to study.

1)I ache for anxiety n stress n i can't do my best if im under pressure(i have to finish high school if i want to move to usa) so i stopped studyin scared to fail but if i don't study i won't go anywhere.

2)i have problems wit my friends who r superficial n stupid(they r all rich ppl n have no matters). i wanted to break up wit em cuz they laughed about my mother(she had serious mental problems after the pregnancy n is still under medicines),n about my family(my uncle is a lil insane n stole things in the prestigious club where me n my friends belong),but i didn't brak up cuz i couldn't stay alone

I started datin sometimes a old friend of mine who understands me but smokes weed so i started smokin weed too.my friends ,as they realized i smoked,started treatin me as a drug fiend(not all my friends r bad ppl).I prefer smokin weed than stayin wit racist superficial n snobbish ppl but i can't leave my friends so i got to bear them treatin me as a drug fiend.I date ppl i wouldn't feel like datin but im scared of stayin alone.i would like to find some1 who understands me cuz i really feel unique in da world.

3)If i could go to usa for a study trip how could i be able to get the green card to remain in the united states foreva?I wanna live there ,i wanna live as an american boy,i gotta visit a lot of places, i gotta discover a lot of feelings,.I gotta reach my mind's home.

I really feel unique in dis world n my pessimism about my future is turnin into certainty of flop. I hope u will understand my feelings n give me some good advices.
Well you have many questions so I am going to answer them one by one.

1) I think it is cool that you like the U.S. The world is BIG and there are many things to explore and experience and the U.S. is one of those interesting things or places.

2) I think you should get focused. If your goal is to come to the U.S. and you are serious then you need to take the steps to make that happen. By doing bad in school and staying high all the time you aren't working hard toward your goal and acting like you really want to leave Italy. If you are serious, act serious and then people; your friends and family will take you serious.

3) If you come to the U.S. as a student you can get a student visa. I would worry about that step 1st and then later worry about the green card. Here is a website with info http://travel.state.gov/visa/temp/types/types_1268.html.

4) Stay away from people who aren't good for you. Either girls or friends. Do you think that successful people have tons of stupid people around them??? If you want to do good be around good people because they won't pull you down. Good friends won't judge you or your family.

5) Lastly don't stress. If your life sucks, worrying about it doesn't help, it just makes the situation worse. Figure out what sucks in your life and then decide what you need to do to change it. You are in control of your future, take action and make things happen!!

Goood luck honey!
]]> General http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=114 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 17:47:23 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=113
thx
Hey,

I am not sure if you are still dating this girl but here is some info on Hep. C.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/hepatitisc1.shtml

It is generally contracted through blood to blood contact so I wouldn't worry about getting it from her if you are romantically involved. Although you should always be careful when you are having sex or doing any other sexual things. Read the link I included above, it has lots of great info.

Best!]]> Relationships http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=113 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 17:33:36 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=112
Hey lady,

As a 25 year old woman I have seen many things and had many experiences. What I try to do in this column is use some of my experiences, experiences of people I know, and simple common knowledge to help others.

Maybe I went through something that you are going through and my advice can help you take a better path so you won't have to experience the pain like I did. Or maybe I can give you an honest opinion because you can't see things clearly at the moment.

In life you will still have your own experiences and you will learn from them and then you will do the same for others. I am still learning everyday but as long as I try NOT to make the same stupid mistakes I am happy. That is my #1 advice. "Shame me once, shame on YOU. Shame me twice, shame on ME!!" Learn from your mistakes, don't make the same mistakes, and keep it moving on to the next chapter in life!!

Muah!


]]> General http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=112 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 17:12:30 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=111 My best friend of 5 years is engaged to marry her boyfriend of 4 years. She says she loves him dearly and cannot imagine the rest of her life without him. She was my maid of honor at my wedding and she wants me to be in hers too. So I am helping her plan her wedding.
At the same time - she is also with another man anytime she is not with her fiance. They go out on dates, they have sex, they do the sweet sappy love letters and text messages to each other. He even bought her a star for christmas and spent another $300 on her for a spa treatment package. She says that she loves guyB dearly and cannot imagine the rest of her life without him. So I am stuck in the middle of helping her plan her wedding with guyA while she is also in love with guyB. She says she wishes she could just have them both and not have to make a decision. She says she knows its wrong but she just can't stop - "when I'm with guyB I just can't tell him no". What is a best friend to do? I can't tell her anything - she won't hear it. I tried to tell her that I don't want to be a part of it anymore - that I can't sit down with her and help her plan her wedding while she is also telling me about being with this other man. But after telling her that - she doesn't want to be friends anymore. She says I'm judging her - and abandoning her and that I'm just a fairweather friend. I don't know what else to do - it breaks my heart to see her do this to herself and to her loved one(s). Should I just chalk this up to a friend lost?

Well you are definitely in a tough situation.

1) You want to be a friend and be supportive to your friend on her big day.
BUT
2) You don't want to let your friend hurt an innocent person(the fiancee-GuyA)).

I am with you that you should NOT partipate on the planning of this wedding. I am not the judgemental type either and you should express to your friend that you are NOT judging her either but you are merely trying to be fair and respectful of other people. I would normally say "stay out of grown folks business" but the thought of the pain that her GuyA will have go through when he finds out she is cheating is too deep. Being respectful of other human beings is a very basic courtesy that most human beings deserve. People who don't respect others, don't respect themselves, and sadly to say she doesn't respect you if she is trying to get you tangled in this as well.

Maybe you can sit her down and talk to her about the importance of wedding vowels since you have experience. Married life is huge responsibility that she doesn't seem ready for. Your friend might realize that marriage isn't for her or at least not for right now. The only thing she stands to lose is GuyA and if it is meant to be with him, things will work out in the end. I believe she needs more time and she should definitely take it before she makes a mistake.

I think that many people act like most situtions in life are "life or death" but the reality of life is that it always moves on and tomorrow will bring a new day.

Above all you should not be a part of her deception. You LOVE your friend, express it to her, remind her of all that you have been through but tell her nicely your conscience can't carry the load of her deception and it is wrong of her to force you to.

Good luck!

]]> Relationships http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=111 Tue, 30 Jan 2007 17:05:04 -0500 http://www.streetgangs.com/askme/index.php?itemid=110 is 22 and I'm 14. We have been going out for 2 years
now and I have yet to meet him face to face. Most of
my friends think I am crazy and are telling me to stop
in case something bad happens to me but I love him too
much to actuall break up with him. What do I do? I
don't want to get hurt but I don't want to leave him
either. I am truely stuck!

Please help me!


Hi sweetheart!

Well I can't give you a complete answer because there is some info missing like how you met your boyfriend (was it over the internet?).

What I can tell you is this:

1) Don't worry about letting him go. Believe me and trust me whan I say that you will get over him, find someone else, and have other nice romantic relationships in your life. You still have many years to grow and mature and throughout those years you will meet MANY nice people. I know that right now you can't see that but trust that I once felt like an ex-boyfriend of mine was my EVERYTHING but now I don't even think about him. Life goes on!

2) Be VERY careful if you did indeed meet him over the internet. People have a tendency of pretending they are one way but really being another. If you don't really know him or have never met him, do you really know as much about him as you think?? What is his; last name, favorite food, favorite movie, where did he grow up? Have you met his family? I say all this to say that even though you feel like you know him, you might not really know him. Be careful about meeting him in person, it could be trouble.

One last thing........ look at this from my perspective. I am 24 years old. There is no way is HELL I would seriously date a 16 year old. He might be a great guy but we are a world apart. He probably wouldn't have a job, an apartment, a car, and is probably still in highschool. If you were 22 would you date a 14 year old boy? Just think about that. Don't you think your boyfriend should be with someone his own age, and if so why isn't he??

xoxoxox......

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