FEMALES ON STREETGANGS.COM

[J-DUB]

My brother is doin well, he settled down got married with 2 kids. he still keeps in touch with everyone from the hood and visits. my brother dont got that much influence over me anymore. ive kame to different reasons why i joined, but the one i told u earlier is the realest. my brother wishes that i dont kick it in the hood as much as i do, but hey what can he do.

Naw i dont think about "not" being in one, but ive wonder sometimes, if my life would of been different if i didnt join.

Yea i know how much houses kost now a days. i already work full time, been at my job for 16 months and im already a manager. lets just say ill be ready to buy a house in 5 years. i did graduate high school, top of my klass. went to kollege for 2 years junior college, got my degree in my field, but havent put it to use. my dream job was to have my own clothing line or be a designer.

[Common Sense]

***Naw i dont think about "not" being in one, but ive wonder sometimes, if my life would of been different if i didnt join. ***

Always strive to do better. There is a huge world out there will lot's of opportunity for you, but you do have to put in your time in the right circles for certain success.

Have you ever considered transferring your units to FDIM in Los Angeles.

[J-DUB]

NAW I HAVENT

[Common Sense]

To be blunt about it, being in a gang is a time waster. You waste time that you can never regain ever again. You miss out on oppotunites to meet with people that can be an asset to your cause and help you grow as an individual. Being in a gang is also a form of bottom feeding, which can make it more difficult to climb the ladders of success. So far your lucky that you only wasted 9 years of your life. Don't waste anymore years.

Always remember...bottom feeding is reserved for the fool who doesn't know any better, and from what it sounds like to me, that's not where you want to be in 5 years.

Check out this site it may change your life.

http://www.fidm.com

If you have any questions, please ask.

CS

[Lonewolf]

To be blunt about it, being in a gang is a time waster. You waste time that you can never regain ever again. You miss out on oppotunites to meet with people that can be an asset to your cause and help you grow as an individual. Being in a gang is also a form of bottom feeding, which can make it more difficult to climb the ladders of success. So far your lucky that you only wasted 9 years of your life. Don't waste anymore years.

Always remember...bottom feeding is reserved for the fool who doesn't know any better, and from what it sounds like to me, that's not where you want to be in 5 years.

Check out this site it may change your life.

http://www.fidm.com

If you have any questions, please ask.

CS

This is the WRONG topic to debate you on this post of yours, but I'll welcome it on the RIGHT one, anytime Common Sense.

[Common Sense]

Sure Lonewolf....you have my respect. Pick an appropriate thread or start one, and I'll be there.

[Lonewolf]

Prevention, Intervention & Awareness I beleive will fit the category, spin it up my man, the fusca is loaded.

[J-DUB]

I KOULDNT DISAGREE MORE with U COMMON. MY BEING IN A GANG OR OTHER PEOPLE ISNT A "WASTE OF TIME". IT MY NOT BE THE BEST DESICION. OR MAYBE NOT THE BEST FOR SOME AND THE BEST FOR OTHERS, BUT SOMETIMES PEOPLE DONT HAVE A CHOICE.
MY DESICION WASNT THE BEST OR SMARTEST,BUT IT WAS MINE. I STILL GET RESPEKT FROM MY BROTHER, MY HOOD, AND OTHER PEOPLE, EVEN THO MY REASON BEHIND JOINING WAS BEKAUSE I WAS A FOLLOWER. AND ILL ADMIT IT,THATS EXAKTLY WHAT I WAS. BUT NOW THAT MY BROTHER HAS MOVED ON with HIS LIFE, IVE ESTABLISHED MYSELF AS A MEMBER, AND NOT SOMEONES LIL SISTER.


THIS WHOLE TIME I WENT TO HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLEGE AND BEEN HOLDING DOWN FULL TIME JOBS, I BEEN IN A GANG. NO TIME WAS BEEN WASTED OF MY LIFE. NOW IF I WAS STEADLY HANGIN IN THE HOOD, KAUSEIN PROBLEMS, AND BEING A THUG, THAT MIGHT BE A WASTE OF TIME. IVE LEARN ALOT FROM BEING IN A GANG, IM MORE STREET SMART. AND I DONT WANNA GOT HRU LIFE USING PEOPLE TO GET AHEAD, I LIKE WORKIN FOR MINE, THE REWARD IS SWEETER.

AND I can HONESTLY SAY, I HAVE NO REGRETS.

[Lonewolf]

I'm with you on it J-DUB, same goes here - you have a special education that most don't, and that is why the media and pop culture try to imitate it, but it can only be lived and learned from when you go thru it.

[J-DUB]

I'm with you on it J-DUB, same goes here - you have a special education that most don't, and that is why the media and pop culture try to imitate it, but it can only be lived and learned from when you go thru it.

EXACTLY LONE

[Common Sense]

IVE LEARN ALOT FROM BEING IN A GANG, IM MORE STREET SMART. AND I DONT WANNA GOT HRU LIFE USING PEOPLE TO GET AHEAD, I LIKE WORKIN FOR MINE, THE REWARD IS SWEETER.

AND I can HONESTLY SAY, I HAVE NO REGRETS.

First of all J Dub, I'm not crackin' on you disrespectfully. I'm just a concern stranger to you, that's all. I'm glad you disagree, because you have to think about your argument...which is a good thing.

Secondly, I never said use anyone, and that's my point....you didn't understand what I meant by that statement....which already put's you at a disadvantage. That site I sent you is supposed to be a good spot. I knew a few people that went there. Might be pricey, but I believe they have financial aid.

I'm going to hash this out with Lonewolf, feel free to join in at anytime.

[J-DUB]

KOMMON, I DIDNT EVEN BOTHER TO GO TO THAT SITE. I APPREICATE YOUR KONCERN, VERY THOUGHTFUL OF A KOMPLETE STRANGER.

You miss out on oppotunites to meet with people that can be an asset to your cause and help you grow as an individual.

THAT WAS YOUR STATEMENT, AND THAT RIGHT THERE KAME OFF TO ME AS USIN PEOPLE, AND THATS NOT ME.

[Lonewolf]

To be blunt about it, being in a gang is a time waster... Being in a gang is also a form of bottom feeding...
Always remember...bottom feeding is reserved for the fool who doesn't know any better

This is what you wrote CM, either explain yourself or swallow it, there is no way around it in our ways - what is your ways ?

[Common Sense]

KOMMON, I DIDNT EVEN BOTHER TO GO TO THAT SITE. I APPREICATE YOUR KONCERN, VERY THOUGHTFUL OF A KOMPLETE STRANGER.

You miss out on oppotunites to meet with people that can be an asset to your cause and help you grow as an individual.

THAT WAS YOUR STATEMENT, AND THAT RIGHT THERE KAME OFF TO ME AS USIN PEOPLE, AND THATS NOT ME.

Well you should never use people. I don't advocate that J DUB. There is an old proverb sayin', "Show Me Your Friends And I'll Show You Who You Are"

I'm sure you've heard of this one "Birds Of A Feather Flock Together"

If you are really serious about being successful in life, you need to start associating with people that are successful in life. Unfortunately many gang members end up in prison, if released (Felons) or dead. So the question I'm asking you is Do you really need that? If you have children, do they need that.

Do you have kids JDUB?

[MICK]

To be blunt about it, being in a gang is a time waster.

Hes right. You seem like a real smart girl, and you have definently come a long way with your education and job. Don't blow it.
You could lose it all in one night if your in the wrong place at the wrong time. The world needs more women like you. seriously.

[MICK]

I'm not trying to get in your buisness, thats just how i see it.

[J-DUB]

I'm not trying to get in your buisness, thats just how i see it.

NAW ITS KOO KROOKID, I DONT MIND OPINIONS OR KONSTRUKTIVE
KRITICISM.

[J-DUB]

I DO ASSOCIATING with SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, BUT I FEEL MORE KOMFORTABLE AROUND PEOPLE IN MY HOOD, THATS JUST ME. THATS WHO I LOVE KICKIN IT with. AND IM NOT EASILY INFLUENCED TO DO SOMETHING THATS GONNA TAKE AWAY EVERYTHING THAT IVE WORKED FOR.

NAW I DONT HAVE ANY KIDS AND DONT WANT ANY.

[Common Sense]

I DO ASSOCIATING with SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, BUT I FEEL MORE KOMFORTABLE AROUND PEOPLE IN MY HOOD, THATS JUST ME. THATS WHO I LOVE KICKIN IT with. AND IM NOT EASILY INFLUENCED TO DO SOMETHING THATS GONNA TAKE AWAY EVERYTHING THAT IVE WORKED FOR.

NAW I DONT HAVE ANY KIDS AND DONT WANT ANY.

Hey J DUB,
I'm glad your open minded and you can accept alternative view points, that's avery ggod trait, so I compliment you on that.

I'm sure you are more comfortable with kickin it with people in your hood, that's what I meant by "Birds of a feather", not sayin' it as a bad thing, but it is to your advantage to venture out and collect new information. That's the only way you are going to grow. The hood will offeryou a certain amount of knowledge, the rest (which you need badly) you'll have to venture else where. Don't misunderstand me by thinking I'm saying abandon your friends. Never never do that, but understand that most are probably not going to surpass that corner in the hood.
I speak to a few G's in their 30's and 40's, and many of them sing "If I had to do it over again. These G's didn't have any alternative view points thrown at them, everyone they was hanging with was biting off the same info.

Life is care free for you know, but it may change over night "guilty by association". I hope you are not going to be one of the older G's singing that same tired song " If only I could do it again. I see young women come and go throught the gangs..only to end up nearly the same. There is nothing new to what you are doing, just a different face and a different name. Even the nick names start to recycle before you know it. So don't allow yourself to be another african american statistic. You can change your future and your family's future right now. You can have what ever you want in life ..if you are willing to sacrifice your time and put in the work, and it will be work.
It's easier to claim a set and run with a crew. Not much prerequisites. Hooking yourself up indefinetly is the challenge of a life time. Not many in the hood are willing to go there...unfortunately. Help bring the hood up, be a outstanding citizen, don't be part of the problem, don't be what our senior citizens despise when they venture out and watch youngs kids and young adults not doing nothing constructive or positive with their lives. Don't continiue pathological lifestyles that you inherited from other family members and neighbors. Don't be a follower. Be a trend setter. Be original. Do something no one has ever done in your family. Give your cousins something to look up to and say "I want to be just like her. Do you know how important that is for young girls. Make your own move under your own flag.
Anyway I'm done, thanks for sharing your story and allowing me to stand at the pullpit for a minute. If you want to continue and bounce ideas regarding goals you can always PM me. I'm availbale for you. Until then..I'll catch you on various threads.

CS

[MICK]

I DO ASSOCIATING with SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, BUT I FEEL MORE KOMFORTABLE AROUND PEOPLE IN MY HOOD, THATS JUST ME. THATS WHO I LOVE KICKIN IT with.

Thats very understandable.

[J-DUB]

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE AND KONVERSATION CS. I ONLY HAVE 1 MORE THING TO ADD. I ALREADY FEEL LIKE IM DIFFERENT B'KAUSE MY 9 YEARS BEING IN A GANGS IVE WORKED, GRADUATED H.S. AND KOLLEGE, SO I ALREADY FEEL LIKE IM DIFFERENT AND MAKIN MY LIFE INTO A POSITIVE ALONG SIDE BEING IN A GANG. BUT THANKS AGAIN.

[Anonymous20]

Any other women on here, I thought this string was about women in streetgangs.com representing.

[J-DUB]

IT WAS/IS BUT U KNOW HOW THINGS VENTURE OFF AT TIMES.

[Kemosave]

I can think of a few Alonso but I don't want to get banned. lolol.. just kidding :>

[Red_Diamond]

Hey what's up. I have a question as a female in a gang what was like ur Role? Did you use to trip bout colors

[Chris.]

Grape2thaBone is a 21 yr old female

[ElGuero]

Not to offend anyone...it can be touchy.....but for the most part, the "initiation" to a gang is different for girls......and that has a lot to do with the amount of respect a girl gets when she's in.....whether she was jumped in by the guys, the girls, or she mmm slept her way into a gang..... I'd like to know what the ladies have to say on this....and just general comments......

[alexalonso]

any females on here now?