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Short Palate: Overcoming Gag Reflex
Many books have been written detailing the art of a successful blow job and websites abound with pictures illustrating proper techniques, but this isn't one of them. Instead we will concentrate on dealing with that bothersome gag reflex. Gagging should only become a problem when something hits the back of your throat. If you keep your partner's penis at the front of your mouth (and keep those teeth covered with your lips) you can stimulate the sensitive nerves around his glans (head of his penis) with your tongue and work the base of his shaft with your hand. This should keep you from gagging, while still drive him wild. As you become more used to fellatio, you can take him further back into your mouth. Keep his penis in the center of your mouth to prevent it from hitting the side walls at the back of your throat (an area rich in gag inducing nerves). This will reduce gagging. And remember, the thicker your partner, the more chance he has of hitting the sides of your throat and starting your gag reflex.
Some suck on a anesthetic throat lozenge to numb the back of their throat.
Although this will decrease gagging, it also deadens many of the nerves and taste buds that provide the enjoyable component of fellatio. Sword swallowers beat the gag reflex by tilting their head back so that the sword makes a straight shot for their esophagus and not the trachea. Some find that in order to deep throat a really big "sword" they can lie on their back and hang their head over the edge of the bed. This maneuver lines up your esophagus with your mouth and cuts down on gagging. Your gag reflex is heightened when your stomach is full, so if you've had a problem with gagging in the past it might be better to do it on an empty stomach -- unless your boyfriend doesn't mind being covered in vomit. Some find that breathing in while they go down on a penis decreases gagging while others find that breathing out does the trick. Experiment and find out what works best for you. If you are inserting your penis into your partner's mouth and she seems nervous, let her control your penetration. If she feels you might hurt her, she will be less willing to take you. Let her take her time and learn the pleasures of fellatio. When you force yourself deep into her throat, your penis can block her airway and she will feel like she is suffocating. Panic will set in immediately, and her only response will be to bite down - so let her be in control.
Gagging is a big problem for many women. Stick anything too far down the throat and the body automatically gags. It's a defensive mechanism that helps prevent choking. In addition, some women have what's known as a "short palate." They gag very easily, which can make them afraid to take a penis into their mouths at all. There are several ways to work around gagging:
(1) You're more likely to gag when he pushes his penis down your throat than when he's still and you control the speed and depth of deep throating. He should stay still and let you have the control.
(2) It's possible to take some conscious control of your gag reflex so that you don't gag so quickly. In addition, try desensitizing your gag reflex in a nonsexual situation, for example, with a toothbrush. Dentists recommend brushing the back of the tongue because it helps prevent bad breath. Practice brushing the back of your tongue. Breathe deeply and think: I'm not going to gag. Insert your toothbrush gently and play with it, discovering the point at which your gag reflex kicks in. Over a few weeks, you should notice that you don't gag quite as easily.
(3) If you gag easily, we suggest mock-deep-throating: Rub your hands together vigorously to warm them. Apply some lubricant to one hand. Take as much of his penis into your mouth as you can comfortably accommodate, and use your warm, lubricated hand on the rest of his shaft. This comes very close to the sensation of being deep-throated.
Some women don't like the taste of semen. For the record: It's about 97% water. Sperm and a little sperm-nourishing sugar and minerals (calcium, sodium, potassium, zinc, etc.) account for most of the rest. So there's nothing "nasty" in semen. Still, some women don't like the taste. Although semen contains sugar, it does not taste sweet. Most semen swallowers describe it as salty and/or metallic. The salty taste comes from the sodium in semen, the metallic taste, from the zinc.
When the penis goes down past your gag reflex area it is called 'deep throating'. The best way to give fellatio is still with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without gagging. You can overcome the natural tendency of the body to gag when a foreign object, such as a penis, is inserted down your throat by completely relaxing your throat at the moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire 'deep throating'. Once again practice is needed to perfect this act.
The average length of your oral cavity is 3-31/2 inches while the average Caucasian penis length is 5-51/2 inches. (LOL!) The biggest obstacle to taking all of your partner's penis down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost 90 degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat.
You will need to get into a position so that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line.
* Lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back
* Let him put his penis down your throat and hold it still while you find the most comfortable way to proceed.
* Take the penis as far as you can without choking and then take in a fraction at a time and slowly swallow it down and rise off just as slowly.
* You must allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his penis deeply down your throat, the penis will then go beyond the gag reflex and the semen ejaculates directly into your stomach.
* To do this long enough for your partner to be completely satisfied is very difficult. You may be able to take your partner's penis completely down your throat, but not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat to ejaculation.
Some affirmations may be needed to handle the act: 'I won't choke'; 'I can take it out at any time', etc. With practice you will be able to take his penis deeper into your throat for longer periods of time.
